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Have you ever wondered about transracial adoption and if it might work for your family? Here is one family’s experience. Thank you Michael and Kristen for sharing:

After our first daughter turned one, we were anxious to dive back into the adoption process for our second child. We decided to sign up with LDS Family Services. During the first 6 months we had talked to several birthmothers but none of the situations seemed to be sticking, so, we signed up with an online adoption website called ParentProfiles. In less than a month we started corresponding with an African American birthmother in North Carolina who would be having a baby that next month and she wanted us to be the parents of her child.

We were so incredibly excited at the prospect of welcoming another sweet little baby into our home in just a short time. We had come to love this birthmother in just the short time that we had known her. As the weeks went on the reality of it all started to sink in. We started to contemplate walking into the unknown of adopting a baby who would never be mistaken for our biological child. This child would go through challenges that we have never known and we felt like we were walking into a world that we didn’t completely understand. Even with our feelings of inadequacy we still felt that it was right.

A month later we flew to North Carolina even before our daughter was born. This was probably the most risky thing you can do as an adoptive couple, but for some reason we felt totally calm and at peace. It was a good thing too because our baby girl wasn’t born for another 3 weeks. After being gone for a total of 4 weeks we were finally able to bring our sweet daughter home. When we got home I remember the feeling I got after looking into her beautiful brown face and seeing a girl who looked nothing like me, who was the spitting image of her birthmother, but who completely belonged with us. I will never forget that feeling.

It has definitely been an adventure into the unknown. Most days we function like any regular family; running from one soccer game to the next, chasing our kids around the park, or having a tickle war in the living room. But, there are definitely times where we are forced to remember that we are no longer a regular family, that we are in fact a multicultural family. Some of the things we have experienced are frustrating, or even laughable. I remember when our daughter was a baby and we all went to Costco. The woman in front of us told me that I looked good for just having a baby. I told her to look again. She was confused, so she looked again. We could see the expression on her face change to complete surprise. She didn’t even know what to say so she just turned around in obvious embarrassment and ignored us while we had a good laugh.

We have had many experiences that we would never have had otherwise. Anywhere from learning to do corn rows, to coming up with witty replies to inappropriate questions from strangers, to being the only white family at a cultural celebration. We are more racially and culturally aware, more sensitive to racial biases, and we have grown to love a culture that we had only viewed from a distance. Most importantly, we are grateful that we didn’t let fear deter us from experiencing the great joy that our amazing little girl has brought us and that God trusted us enough to be her parents. We couldn’t imagine our family any other way.

“God never gives us responsibility without offering divine aid—of that I can testify. “
–Tad R Callister, LDS Sunday School General President, “Parents: The Prime Gospel Teachers of Their Children,” General Conference Ensign November 2014.