Congratulations! Placed Couples: September

It has been another busy month for our wonderful families. Congratulations to the following, who were placed with precious little ones into their families this month. It was apparently a month for baby boys to join the world (and one sweet little girl!) As always, we acknowledge the sweet bravery of the birth parents who chose adoption for their babies.

We are regularly asked how our families receive placements. The majority are through private adoptions, and this month, each of our families was placed with privately!

 

 

 

 

 

Congratulations to these sweet couples!!

By |September 28th, 2018|Blog|0 Comments|

Positive Adoption Language

Adoption is a beautiful thing that has touched the lives of many people in a very positive way. How we talk about adoption is important. The language we use can have a significant effect on how others think and feel about adoption. The words we choose to use when talking about adoption can paint adoption as either a positive or negative thing.

Often, we may not even realize that the terms we use when talking about adoption are negative or inappropriate.  Just by making a few simple changes in our adoption vocabulary, we can paint a more positive view of adoption and the people involved in it. We can also help to dispel common adoption myths by using appropriate adoption language, thus creating a more positive view of adoption in general. Here are some ideas to help you replace negative adoption language with positive adoption language.

A common myth is that expectant parents who choose an adoption plan for their child do so because they “don’t want” the child. This is far from the truth. Expectant parents who chose adoption love their child and put a lot of thought into the decision. Using phrases such as “made an adoption plan”, “chose adoption”, and “placed their child for adoption” convey the message that the decision was made thoughtfully and lovingly. Saying things like “gave up”, “put up for adoption”, or “adopted out” imply that no thought or love were involved in the decision.
Terms to avoid: gave up, gave away, put up, abandoned, adopted out
Use these terms instead:
placed, made an adoption plan, chose adoption

Another common mistake in adoption language is to refer to the biological or birth parents as the “real parents.” This implies that adoptive parents […]

By |September 21st, 2018|Blog|0 Comments|

Adoption and Airplanes

We at Utah Adoption Specialists are committed to help prepare couples to become parents and have a family through adoption.  Sometimes, it may seem like this is not fair!  An adoptive couple goes through a great deal of paperwork; forms to complete, documents to gather and releases of information to complete, adoption education to

attend, and several interviews in preparation to getting your home study completed.  Sometimes, an unaware person assumes that

a “home study” simply means someone comes to see your house to make sure it passes for them to be approved to adopt.  While part of the home study is indeed a lengthy home safety checklist, that is only a small part of the home study summary in the end.  Your home study is an in depth look at your family from several different angles to help your adoption professional understand your readiness to become parents and to adopt.  We send reference letters, and ask others about your strengths and weaknesses, your marriage, your interaction with children and other questions, we get a financial report and a copy of your most recent tax statement.  We get medical reports for each of the parents and any children in the home.  We discuss current and past medical history, mental health history, previous marriage history if applicable.  We want to know who you have selected to be guardians for your children if something happened to you and you were unable to fulfill your responsibilities as parents.  We ask about your parenting methods and how you discipline, do you plan to use corporal punishment?  How do you feel about birth parents?  There are lengthy questionnaires to fill out… a home […]

By |August 28th, 2018|Blog|0 Comments|

Upcoming Events August/September 2018

Has everyone been enjoying their summer as much as we have?! Our free Adoptive Couple Support Groups have been on pause to give everyone a chance to enjoy their summer. But there are a few events to look forward to in the coming months! We are really excited about our upcoming adoption education classes on September 7 & 8! We have an awesome schedule planned with amazing presenters. We are currently running a giveaway for a pair of tickets – hurry on over to our social media pages and get entered if you haven’t, the giveaway ends on Friday (August 10)!

Our Utah County and Northern Utah Adoption Support Groups are both taking a break for August, but are excited to get started back up again in September. The Northern Utah Support Group will be starting things off with a bang with an awesome date night planned for September 14. Mark your calendars now as this is an event you won’t want to miss!

And you’ve all heard of the Utah Infertility Resource Center, right?! They are hosting an LGBTQ Family Building Panel and Provider Meet and Greet on August 29. You can get more information on their Facebook page.

There are also a couple of great opportunities for birth parent support groups in August through Life After Placement (click here for more info) on August 9, and Children’s Service Society (Birth Parent Support Group Flyer 2018) on August 14.

Do you know of any other events supporting adoption this […]

By |August 6th, 2018|Blog|0 Comments|

Placed: July

July was the month of the baby boys! Congratulations to our following families who were placed with babies in July:

By |July 31st, 2018|Blog|0 Comments|

June Placements

Congratulations to our following families who each adopted children in June!

 

 

 

By |July 1st, 2018|Blog|0 Comments|

Who Does This Child Belong To?: Guest post by Lori Bassham

“We should not be asking who this child belongs to, but who belongs to this child.” -James L. Gritter

I’ll lay it out for you. Nice and honest. I felt defensive and threatened when I first started learning about open adoption. But this will be MY child. I will change this baby’s diapers. I will kiss this child’s boo-boos. I will rub this kid’s back when the flu strikes and the vomit flows. I didn’t really want to share. Somewhere along the way, someone told me that open adoption is biblical adoption and somewhere along the way I began to research the effects of open adoption on children and somewhere along the way, my views began to change.

But what would it look like?

Pictures and letters.

It would look like pictures and letters because my child would need the comfort and stability of knowing that we are his family.

Right?

You see, I hadn’t met my child yet. And I hadn’t met his mother.

Every circumstance within adoption is unique. Some children are taken by the state for reasons. Some parents are absolutely incapable of raising their kids. Sometimes there is abuse and it is not in the best interest of the child to see his parents. I know this. I am so thankful that isn’t Matthew’s story but I know it’s the story of countless children.

Perhaps, in those situations, open adoption does look like pictures and letters only. And that’s okay. But what’s vital, for our children, is that we do not shame their first family. For in shaming the family, we inadvertently shame the child. In refusing to talk about the first family, we silence the child. In failing to discuss adoption openly and honestly, we express to […]

By |June 19th, 2018|Blog|0 Comments|

Congratulations! May 2018 Placements

We have had a busy month! We would love to congratulate the following families on the placements of their sweet little ones:

 

CONGRATULATIONS to each of you!! We are so happy for you and your growing families. We are blessed to be able to watch families grow through the beautiful gift of adoption. We honor the selfless and wonderful birth families who chose adoption for their sweet babies.

 

By |May 31st, 2018|Blog|0 Comments|

Upcoming Events May 2018

There are so many amazing opportunities for education and support for those involved with adoption in Utah!

Here are some upcoming events for May 2018:

Northern Utah Adoptive/Foster Parent Support Group – these groups are always free and you do not have to be a Utah Adoption Specialists client to attend

 

Utah County Adoptive Parent Support Group – these groups are always free and you do not have to be a Utah Adoption Specialists client to attend

 

Utah Infertility Resource Center Support Groups

 

Birth Parent Support Group at Children’s Service Society

 

Birth Mother’s Day Celebration (sponsored by Life After Placement)

 

Please feel free to contact us with questions or for more information regarding these events!

April 2018 Placements

We have decided to feature our couples each month who have had placements! In April, three of our lovely families grew through the sacrifice and love of birth families who placed their babies into their arms.

Congratulations to the following: (click on read more to see the whole post)

 

 

 

We are so happy for each of you!!

By |April 29th, 2018|Blog|0 Comments|