Who Does This Child Belong To?: Guest post by Lori Bassham

“We should not be asking who this child belongs to, but who belongs to this child.” -James L. Gritter

I’ll lay it out for you. Nice and honest. I felt defensive and threatened when I first started learning about open adoption. But this will be MY child. I will change this baby’s diapers. I will kiss this child’s boo-boos. I will rub this kid’s back when the flu strikes and the vomit flows. I didn’t really want to share. Somewhere along the way, someone told me that open adoption is biblical adoption and somewhere along the way I began to research the effects of open adoption on children and somewhere along the way, my views began to change.

But what would it look like?

Pictures and letters.

It would look like pictures and letters because my child would need the comfort and stability of knowing that we are his family.

Right?

You see, I hadn’t met my child yet. And I hadn’t met his mother.

Every circumstance within adoption is unique. Some children are taken by the state for reasons. Some parents are absolutely incapable of raising their kids. Sometimes there is abuse and it is not in the best interest of the child to see his parents. I know this. I am so thankful that isn’t Matthew’s story but I know it’s the story of countless children.

Perhaps, in those situations, open adoption does look like pictures and letters only. And that’s okay. But what’s vital, for our children, is that we do not shame their first family. For in shaming the family, we inadvertently shame the child. In refusing to talk about the first family, we silence the child. In failing to discuss adoption openly and honestly, we express to […]

By |June 19th, 2018|Blog|0 Comments|

Congratulations! May 2018 Placements

We have had a busy month! We would love to congratulate the following families on the placements of their sweet little ones:

 

CONGRATULATIONS to each of you!! We are so happy for you and your growing families. We are blessed to be able to watch families grow through the beautiful gift of adoption. We honor the selfless and wonderful birth families who chose adoption for their sweet babies.

 

By |May 31st, 2018|Blog|0 Comments|

Upcoming Events May 2018

There are so many amazing opportunities for education and support for those involved with adoption in Utah!

Here are some upcoming events for May 2018:

Northern Utah Adoptive/Foster Parent Support Group – these groups are always free and you do not have to be a Utah Adoption Specialists client to attend

 

Utah County Adoptive Parent Support Group – these groups are always free and you do not have to be a Utah Adoption Specialists client to attend

 

Utah Infertility Resource Center Support Groups

 

Birth Parent Support Group at Children’s Service Society

 

Birth Mother’s Day Celebration (sponsored by Life After Placement)

 

Please feel free to contact us with questions or for more information regarding these events!

April 2018 Placements

We have decided to feature our couples each month who have had placements! In April, three of our lovely families grew through the sacrifice and love of birth families who placed their babies into their arms.

Congratulations to the following: (click on read more to see the whole post)

 

 

 

We are so happy for each of you!!

By |April 29th, 2018|Blog|0 Comments|

A Birth Mother’s Story

When couples first start the adoption process, it is normal for them to have misconceptions about birth parents. They may think they are scary or believe stereotypes that birth mothers are all mentally ill or addicted to drugs. Truthfully, most birth mothers are mature, healthy people who have the capacity to make a very, very difficult decision for their babies out of love.  We love to help combat stereotypes when it comes to birth mothers, so today, we wanted to share with you a birth mother’s story in her own words. Melinda has placed two children for adoption and has an open adoption with their family. Read her full story HERE. We are grateful to birth mothers like Melinda who are willing to share their journey publicly in order to help educate others!

 

By |April 19th, 2018|Blog|0 Comments|

The Beauty of Adoption

One of our dear adoptive couples, the M family, adopted sweet little D two months ago. His mama wrote these words about the beauty of his adoption and how his two families make a whole:

“This boy has taught me so much already. I hope he always knows how amazing he is, and knows the amount of love we have for him is immeasurable. So many people have already said things like, ‘How could she give him away?’. If you’re not in the adoption world, you may not quite understand (and that’s okay, I didn’t either for a bit). But D’s birth mama loves him something fierce. That is why she PLACED him gently into our care. I am not going to go into details, because they’re her details. But she is wonderful and together we make his family. One of us is not better than the other, and he is the connection we will love together and share forever. His smile makes me weak, and his big hands tell me how big his heart is going to be. There have been many grateful tears over this boy.”

THIS is the beauty of adoption! Thank you for sharing, M family.

 

By |April 5th, 2018|Blog|0 Comments|

Upcoming Birth Parent Panel!

We are excited to present an upcoming Birth Parent Panel with United for Adoption, April 25 at 6 pm at the Layton Library. Please join us for a wonderful evening of education! This event is free and open to anyone interested.

By |March 22nd, 2018|Blog|0 Comments|

Utah Adoption Education Classes

We would love to have you join us for our semi-annual adoption education classes! The link to sign up and for more information can be found here:

adoption-education-and-training.simpletix.com 

 

By |January 23rd, 2018|Blog|0 Comments|

Private Adoption: How To Make It Happen For You

Are you wondering how you can make a private adoption happen for you?

Our wonderful N family has successfully completed three private adoptions in just over a year! They put together a blog post about how they made it happen, and we are so excited to share it with all of you hopeful adoptive couples.

Read here for some great advice on how to get the word out there and be proactive in your adoption journey.

Adoption – How Did We Do It?

By |November 16th, 2017|Blog|0 Comments|

Here is our newest flyer with all the support groups coming up until summer 2018!! Groups are held the 2nd Friday of every month at Thanksgiving Point, unless otherwise noted. All the groups are free. We hope you will join us!!

By |October 16th, 2017|Blog|0 Comments|