Congratulations! Placed couples November 2018

This month, we celebrated with six families as they had beautiful little ones join their families. Our thoughts and utmost respect are with the birth families who chose the difficult path of adoption for their sweet children.

Congratulations to the following:

 

 

 

 

 

 

Congratulations to each of you! We love sharing your joy with you!

By |November 30th, 2018|Blog|0 Comments|

Placed Couples- October 2018

Congratulations to the following beautiful couples who added to their families through adoption this month! We honor the brave sacrifice of these sweet babies’ birth families who created these wonderful family bonds.

 

 

 

Congratulations to all!

By |November 1st, 2018|Blog|0 Comments|

Adoption Profiles: How to Make Yourself Shine!

When starting your adoption journey, there are a lot of new things to learn about and undertake. In addition to completing all the paperwork for the home study, you also need to start thinking about how to build an adoption profile and what information you are going to include there. We know that all of this can be overwhelming! All UAS clients can access their caseworker anytime for tips and feedback on their profiles, but we have a new resource we want to introduce you to as well.

Meet Pax:


Pax is a UAS client who happens to be next-door neighbors with our caseworker Lauren. After her own struggle with family building and being overwhelmed with the cost of agency adoptions, Pax turned to Lauren for education on private adoption. She learned that it is all about networking, profile building, and social media exposure. She took the basics to heart and magnified them to building a successful blog, Facebook page, and Instagram page. Through her networking efforts, Pax and her husband were able adopt three children privately in just over a year’s time!

Now, Pax is utilizing her skills to help YOU have success with online networking to assist in your journey toward a private adoption. Pax has started a free Facebook group,  This is You: Adoption Profiles That Show Who You Are, where she is providing weekly tips and profile feedback. In addition, she is offering three different packages at varying rates to help people on a one-on-one basis to make your profiles stand out. These are explained more on the Facebook page.

We encourage all of our clients to […]

By |October 17th, 2018|Blog, Uncategorized|0 Comments|

Congratulations! Placed Couples: September

It has been another busy month for our wonderful families. Congratulations to the following, who were placed with precious little ones into their families this month. It was apparently a month for baby boys to join the world (and one sweet little girl!) As always, we acknowledge the sweet bravery of the birth parents who chose adoption for their babies.

We are regularly asked how our families receive placements. The majority are through private adoptions, and this month, each of our families was placed with privately!

 

 

 

 

Congratulations to these sweet couples!!

By |September 28th, 2018|Blog|0 Comments|

Positive Adoption Language

Adoption is a beautiful thing that has touched the lives of many people in a very positive way. How we talk about adoption is important. The language we use can have a significant effect on how others think and feel about adoption. The words we choose to use when talking about adoption can paint adoption as either a positive or negative thing.

Often, we may not even realize that the terms we use when talking about adoption are negative or inappropriate.  Just by making a few simple changes in our adoption vocabulary, we can paint a more positive view of adoption and the people involved in it. We can also help to dispel common adoption myths by using appropriate adoption language, thus creating a more positive view of adoption in general. Here are some ideas to help you replace negative adoption language with positive adoption language.

A common myth is that expectant parents who choose an adoption plan for their child do so because they “don’t want” the child. This is far from the truth. Expectant parents who chose adoption love their child and put a lot of thought into the decision. Using phrases such as “made an adoption plan”, “chose adoption”, and “placed their child for adoption” convey the message that the decision was made thoughtfully and lovingly. Saying things like “gave up”, “put up for adoption”, or “adopted out” imply that no thought or love were involved in the decision.
Terms to avoid: gave up, gave away, put up, abandoned, adopted out
Use these terms instead:
placed, made an adoption plan, chose adoption

Another common mistake in adoption language is to refer to the biological or birth parents as the “real parents.” This implies that adoptive parents […]

By |September 21st, 2018|Blog|0 Comments|

Adoption and Airplanes

We at Utah Adoption Specialists are committed to help prepare couples to become parents and have a family through adoption.  Sometimes, it may seem like this is not fair!  An adoptive couple goes through a great deal of paperwork; forms to complete, documents to gather and releases of information to complete, adoption education to

attend, and several interviews in preparation to getting your home study completed.  Sometimes, an unaware person assumes that

a “home study” simply means someone comes to see your house to make sure it passes for them to be approved to adopt.  While part of the home study is indeed a lengthy home safety checklist, that is only a small part of the home study summary in the end.  Your home study is an in depth look at your family from several different angles to help your adoption professional understand your readiness to become parents and to adopt.  We send reference letters, and ask others about your strengths and weaknesses, your marriage, your interaction with children and other questions, we get a financial report and a copy of your most recent tax statement.  We get medical reports for each of the parents and any children in the home.  We discuss current and past medical history, mental health history, previous marriage history if applicable.  We want to know who you have selected to be guardians for your children if something happened to you and you were unable to fulfill your responsibilities as parents.  We ask about your parenting methods and how you discipline, do you plan to use corporal punishment?  How do you feel about birth parents?  There are lengthy questionnaires to fill out… a home […]

By |August 28th, 2018|Blog|0 Comments|

Upcoming Events August/September 2018

Has everyone been enjoying their summer as much as we have?! Our free Adoptive Couple Support Groups have been on pause to give everyone a chance to enjoy their summer. But there are a few events to look forward to in the coming months! We are really excited about our upcoming adoption education classes on September 7 & 8! We have an awesome schedule planned with amazing presenters. We are currently running a giveaway for a pair of tickets – hurry on over to our social media pages and get entered if you haven’t, the giveaway ends on Friday (August 10)!

Our Utah County and Northern Utah Adoption Support Groups are both taking a break for August, but are excited to get started back up again in September. The Northern Utah Support Group will be starting things off with a bang with an awesome date night planned for September 14. Mark your calendars now as this is an event you won’t want to miss!

And you’ve all heard of the Utah Infertility Resource Center, right?! They are hosting an LGBTQ Family Building Panel and Provider Meet and Greet on August 29. You can get more information on their Facebook page.

There are also a couple of great opportunities for birth parent support groups in August through Life After Placement (click here for more info) on August 9, and Children’s Service Society (Birth Parent Support Group Flyer 2018) on August 14.

Do you know of any other events supporting adoption this […]

By |August 6th, 2018|Blog|0 Comments|

Placed: July

July was the month of the baby boys! Congratulations to our following families who were placed with babies in July:

By |July 31st, 2018|Blog|0 Comments|

June Placements

Congratulations to our following families who each adopted children in June!

 

 

 

By |July 1st, 2018|Blog|0 Comments|

Who Does This Child Belong To?: Guest post by Lori Bassham

“We should not be asking who this child belongs to, but who belongs to this child.” -James L. Gritter

I’ll lay it out for you. Nice and honest. I felt defensive and threatened when I first started learning about open adoption. But this will be MY child. I will change this baby’s diapers. I will kiss this child’s boo-boos. I will rub this kid’s back when the flu strikes and the vomit flows. I didn’t really want to share. Somewhere along the way, someone told me that open adoption is biblical adoption and somewhere along the way I began to research the effects of open adoption on children and somewhere along the way, my views began to change.

But what would it look like?

Pictures and letters.

It would look like pictures and letters because my child would need the comfort and stability of knowing that we are his family.

Right?

You see, I hadn’t met my child yet. And I hadn’t met his mother.

Every circumstance within adoption is unique. Some children are taken by the state for reasons. Some parents are absolutely incapable of raising their kids. Sometimes there is abuse and it is not in the best interest of the child to see his parents. I know this. I am so thankful that isn’t Matthew’s story but I know it’s the story of countless children.

Perhaps, in those situations, open adoption does look like pictures and letters only. And that’s okay. But what’s vital, for our children, is that we do not shame their first family. For in shaming the family, we inadvertently shame the child. In refusing to talk about the first family, we silence the child. In failing to discuss adoption openly and honestly, we express to […]

By |June 19th, 2018|Blog|0 Comments|